Andrew Wayne Braysford

1990 - 2008
LocationNelson
Age18 years
Cause of DeathMisadventure
Date of Birth27/03/1990
Date of Death04/07/2008
Visitors6,729 since 15/07/2008
Creator

This is for my beautiful boy who struggled for so many years and never came to terms with the
rejection from his father Wayne, the boy who gave up at the age of 14 and used drugs to numb his
pain, the boy who tried his hardest to be the best dad ever and loved his son, the boy who finally
in the past year tried to turn around his life and was starting college this september and signed on
with an employment agency, the boy who underneath all the macho hard boy exterior was deeply caring
and sensitive, the boy who could make us laugh with his great sense of humour and ideas of wayward
schemes, the boy who made us cry and caused us heartbreak many times,the boy who made mistakes and
had some great achievements, the boy who was known as a lovable rogue and everybody involved with
Andrew loved and cared for him so much and tried their best to help him to overcome his struggles
because we could all see how much he had to offer.
Sleep tight now baby boy - I know you are no longer in pain and we meet again one day until then we
will carry you in our hearts and miss you. xxx


Andrew's inquest took place on the 17th October this year and all it took for him to die where 15
seconds of inhaling lighter fluid no other traces of drugs where found in his body not even alcohol,
in some ways I am glad about this knowing that he was turning his life around away from drugs but
like the coroner said 15 seconds of madness destroyed all the good work he had done but I am proud
that he had come so far after all the years of hardache and wishing that he was still here. I spoke
to him the day he died we were supposed to meet but never did, wish I would have had that last time
with him, just another hug and another one of his cheeky smiles, I miss him so much and not a day
goes by when I don't think of him.


These are some of the things people said about Andy at his funeral and I am so proud of all his
friends who helped to take Andy on his final journey.

Kez, Chris and Brolly:
"Dear Andy,
What a week eh!?!Even though this has been a hard week for everyone it's brought back hidden
memories, the fondest of which was you being site supervisor building that den on Dawes' car park
out of old crates and hiding from the employees on their fag breaks. It's fair to say you had your
brushes with the law and your cheeky stuntman moments. We remebered Chris staying at yours and it
was 3am in the morning and that couple were arguing down the back street so you had the bright idea
of shining a torch at them, 10 minutes later you heard a knock at the door and this huge cop was
stood in front of you and Chris for unknown reasons. Even though the cop was giving you both the
third degree on shining torches you were still trying your upmost that Kirsten didn't wake up and
both keeping massive fits of laughter pouring out. You thought you'd evaded the Wrath of your
mother, but...two weeks later the bright spark across the road dropped you in it by asking Kirsten
what the police car was doing outside the house the other week at 3 in the morning.

We also remember going to watch Burnley at the Turf against Reading, we lost 3-0 that day and we
went to the coaches to give them the traditional V's and you went that little bit further and
started blowing kisses with your trackies in your socks and your hat perfectly pointed at 23
degrees. No wonder that cop had a word with you.

The time you, Brolly and Canning got up late to get something to eat. After spilling cocoa powder
all over the floor you were all somehow inspired to go for a run in nothing but your boxers. It was
originally a dare to run down Hallam Road without being spotted and were hiding behind cars on
Hendon Road so Kez wouldn't spot you walking past his house. You got to Andy's house and started
walking the streets.

Do you also remember the time when we went throught the Jackass stage of throwing hard objects at
each other and going through the phase of Bush diving. This is for sure, no bush looked the same, it
either had a big butt mark in it or looked like the owner went crazy on it with some shears.

Also you and Kez going down the stairs in that blue box, no matter what, we always managed to find
fun, even if it was out of nothing. Even in Science when it got boring how we managed to take Mr Ali
to the far reaches of insanity doing stupid things. It alway ended up with you, Kez or Brolly
getting sent out and receiving detention, all because Science was an opportunity to doss.

Probably the last time we all got together was when we had a massive sleepover at yours, we all
found room to sleep on the floor but Brolly being Brolly slept in the cupboard.

When we arrive at the gates of heaven we'll help you with your imaginative schemes and hotwire
Graham's car so you can jump the gates.

See you at some wild house party in Heaven!!"



Safespace:
"Working at SafeSpace we come into a lot of contact with a lot of young people all of whom are
important in their own individual way but I have to say that Andy really made a special impact at
SafeSpace - on the staff and his fellow housemates - in many many ways.

The first time Andy came to stay at SafeSpace I can remember him clearly wearing his tracky and his
trademark baseball cap - which at that time, he would never, ever take off no matter what! That was
Andy, - the cheeky, headstrong, loveable rogue that we all came to know.

Andy loved his music it was a huge part of his life - whereever there was mcing and dance music
there was Andy - he loved everything that went with the image, the people, the culture - that was
Andy. He was forever on the computer listening to his music, adding to his Bebo page and other
website pages, bigging himself and AJ up or chatting to anyone and everyone on MSN.

Andy was a great resident at SafeSpace - yes he broke rules (quite a few in fact) but he was a joy
to be around at SafeSpace and I think he enjoyed being at SafeSpace. He was always willing to get
involved in activities in and out of the project from a quick game of footy down the park, to
canoeing, sailing, climbing, archery, cookery (he could make a mean curry!) and snowboarding which
unfortunately ended up with a trip to Bury hospital (but that's another story!). He was a great team
player who loved to meet people and anyone who had the opportunity to meet soon found him to be a
great friend.

Andy always kept us entertained with his stories, plans and choices in life. I had many a great
conversation with him about anything and everything - from life in general to parenthood to going
out clubbing to noodles! All the staff were more than willing to offer and give him support whenever
he wanted or need it and they had all the time in the world for him. He was a very fair, respectful,
and loving young man.

Andy knew his mum loved him dearly, and he clearly loved her and of course he loved his precious son
AJ. AJ was his life, he loved to talk about him, show us photos of him and spend time with him. He
was a proud father and we know that he saw AJ as one of his greatest achievements in his life.

Andy stayed with us at SafeSpace twice and we wish there could have been a third time because we
would have given him that chance because he deserved it. In such a short life he experienced so much
but we wish it could have been more.

We miss you Andy.

You will never be forgotten."

I like to thank everyone who has offered their support and left tributes and candles for Andrew, my
love and thoughts are with all of you xxx


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andrew

never really knew you but one thing i knew was that your mum was extremely proud of you..your memories will live on through your son...my thoughts and prayers are with you
rest in peace

Asma (Friend) July 29, 2008

God loves a tryer and you tryed your best . good night rest in peace . marie xx

Marie (Friend) July 29, 2008

Andrew

we knew you though we never met and your mum was proud of you. Our prayers are with you as well as our love we wil do our best to look after your mum our friend .

Elaine (Friend) July 27, 2008

neva gone

r.i.p lad god only ever takes the best!!!!!!!
luff yhoooo xxxx

Alanna (Friend) July 25, 2008

When someone we love passes away,
We ache, but we go on;
Our dear departed would want us to heal,
After they are gone.

He’s in a better place right now
Than he’s ever been before;
All pain is gone; he’s now at rest;
Nothing troubles him anymore.

Wayne (Family) July 23, 2008

Wish List

I wish my child hadn't died. I wish I had him back...
I wish you wouldn't be scared to mention his name...
He was alive and meant a lot to me. I need to hear that he was important to you also...

If I cry and get emotional when you talk I wish you knew that it isn't because you have hurt me... My child's death is the cause of my tears. You have talked about my child, and you have allowed me to share my grief... I thank you for both...

But please keep him alive by sharing our memories and do not dispose of the mementos his son will need them one day...

Being bereaved is not contagious, so I wish you wouldn't shy away from me...
I need you now more than ever...

I need diversions, so I do want to hear about you: but, I also want you to hear about me... I might be sad and I might cry, but I wish you would let me talk about my child, my favourite topic of the day...

I know that you think of and pray for me often...I also know that my child's death pains you too...I wish you would let me know those things through a call, a card or note, an email or just a real big hug...

I wish you wouldn't expect my grief to be over in six month...These first few months will be traumatic for me, but I wish you could understand that my grief will never be over...I will suffer the death of my child until the day I die...

I am working very hard in my recovery, but I wish you could understand that I will never fully recover...I will always miss my child, and I will always grief that he is dead...

I wish you understood how my life has shattered...I know it is miserable to for you to be around me whem I'm feeling miserable...Please be as patient with me as I am with you...

When I say 'I'm doing ok', I wish you could understand that I don't 'feel' ok and that I struggle daily...


I wish you knew that all of the grief reactions I'm having are very normal...
It can not be avoided...So please excuse me when I'm quiet and withdrawn or irritable and cranky...

Your advice to 'take one day at a time' is excellent advice...However, a day is too much and too fast right now. I wish you could understand that I'm doing good to handle an hour at a time...

Please excuse me if I seem rude, certaily not my intent...Sometimes the world around me goes to fast and I need to get off...When I walk away, I wish you would let me find a quiet place to spend time alone...

I wish you understood that grief changes people...When my child died, a big part of me died with him...I am not the same person I was before my child died, and I can never be that person again...

I wish very much that you could understand: understand my loss and my grief, my silence and my tears, my void and my pain.

But I pray daily that you will never understand.

Kirsten Kohler (Mum) July 22, 2008

miss you loads

really sorry you left us so soon , i miss u so much i gona miss those fun times we had laughing and joking around and taking your son out u made me laugh even when i was feeling down u made me smile when i was sad i miss u i dont no wat else to say as i find it hard not being able to tell u how i feel anymore face to face but youll alwys be in my heart and when i feel upset or down ill think back to the good times we had rest in peace mate xxxxxxxx

Haylee (Friend) July 21, 2008

Miss u andy x x x

Hope ur ok up there. every1 missin u like mad mate. luv ya x x x x x x x

R.I.P babe
x x x
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Jodie Oneill (Friend) July 19, 2008

Miss you buddy

Its been 4days since we said goodbye.
I was honoured to carry you into the chapel, along with kez brolly and nathan.
I hope you like the letter we wrote you, your probably reading it again up in heaven on some cloud lol

I miss you mate so much, but i can defo see you in Ajay, he's class, a great laugh just like his daddy!!

I hope your ok now mate, at peace.

RIP Andy 1990-2008 Gone but not forgotten

Chris Holden (Friend) July 18, 2008

RIP youn Andrew although it was too soon for you to leave your parents. It is flowers that do not have long life. Then sure have been a nice flower. My flower son Mohammad also left me in June last year when he was only 23 with many plans for his future. He left us with all these plans. God will sure bless you both since you left your parents in your blooming.
Mohammad Mashayekhi's Father

Javad Mashayekhi (passer by whose son is in the same site) July 17, 2008
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